Carrying a sign that reads "Mom on Strike," a single mom protested against her two teenage daughters' out of control behavior.
The single mom stated: "I'm to the point where I'm just so frustrated. So to keep my hands off my kids or to keep me from doing something crazy, I just decided to go on strike."
She's fed up because her kids won't cooperate. They don't appreciate her. They are entitled and disrepectful; they won't do chores; they refuse to get off their cell phones and video games, and they even keyed her brand new car.
Based on a true story from ABC news.
The single mom also stated,
"My children have everything that they could possibly want and need, but yet still, they are disrespectful. They are rude. They think that I'm the meanest mom in the world. They think they can survive without me, so I said, you know what? That's fine. This mom is going on strike."
Mom Goes on Strike
Are you so frustrated with your kids that you're ready to crack?
Here's one mom that actually did.
Mom Goes on Strike
This mom isn't the only one who's getting frustrated. There is an epidemic of this entitlement mentality among children. Here's some rather shocking stats.
The correlation between the two is self-evident.
Below are even more stats that demonstrate the ever increasing entitlement among adolescents.
74% of parents provide financial support to their adult children, between the ages of 18-29. (Clark Poll of Parents of Emerging Adults)
64% of parents admit their children are spoiled. (Today Show)
Now, this can help just about any family, but not all parents have time to deal with it and may be too overwhelmed as is. In many situations, it's too much to remember and stay on top of, especially with busy and hectic schedules with kids. It can be difficult to find time handle it all, let alone, be organized about it.
If you're a parent who can relate to the "mom on strike", there's some good news and some bad news.
The good news is, this problem is easily fixable if you catch this behavior early enough.
The bad news is, if you're already experiencing this behavior from your child and you don't make a change now, you'll be headed for a myriad of trouble in the very near future.
They say that just an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.
So how do we stop unhealthy behavior from kids for now and prevent unhealthy behavior in the future?
There are several things that need to happen. See list below.
Rules for a balanced family:
Be organized and consistent
Have established rules ahead of time, before something happens
Follow through with consequences - every time
Give discipline (not punishment)
Redirect a child when he/she misbehaves
Instill good work ethic by giving examples
Teach or "coach" the child to do things for him/herself
And that's the problem...
Me and every other "Joe Schmoe" can tell you what to do all day long, but it does nothing to solve the actual problem.
Instead of telling parents what to do, parents need to know how to put these things into place without feeling so inundated by it. Not only this, but parents need a helping hand.
In our every day busy and hectic lives, it's truly a struggle to follow all the "parenting rules". Nobody's perfect and we don't always do what we "should" do as parents because life happens. This is why we need help... But where do we find such help?
Here are a couple of options:
One way to get help is though parenting groups. You can find one in almost any neighborhood through social media, where you and other parents can share tips, tools, and advice. You can also help each other and give each other emotional support. Make some time to lean into your community and you'll be suprised at how much you and your community can work together to help each other out. If you need a little direction, here are a couple of parenting facebook groups to get you started:
In addition to connecting with other parents, I have a much more immediate solution. It's a break-through discipline tool called Mom Dollar Money. This tool implements positive discipline, child psychology, and real-world examples to bring about mental change in children.
This system literally works like magic to motivate children to cooperate and do chores, while providing a middle-ground to eliminate power struggles between parents and kids. It also makes it super easy to give consequences (every parent's least favorite part), without always having to be the bad guy. Children also learn how the real world works (a necessary part of education which is lacking from most schools).
If you're frustrated, overwhelmed, or just flat out ready to go on strike, there is a solution, but you must be willing to take action. When parents have difficulty with child(ren), and they put off addressing these problems until later, it only gets worse. Therefore you must take action right now!